Struggling With Relationship Issues

When I work with people who are struggling with relationship issues I will first ask how they care for themselves. As role models and mentors, we focus on emotional health because it ultimately affects everything else that’s going on in a person’s life. Sometimes, I will recommend meditation, various breathing exercises, gratitude journaling, yoga practices, reading, listening to audiobooks, writing, mantras, affirmations and more to enrich the person’s capacity for self-love. 

Only when we can accept ourselves for who we really are, can we accept others into our lives, fully and honestly. If you are struggling in a relationship, for example, it may be possible that you are only looking at the negatives in that person. When you turn your attention toward looking at the positive things that brought you together, you might find yourself in a more accepting relationship. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to point a finger at someone in a judgmental way and criticize others? It takes the same amount of energy to recognize the goodness in people and what they have to offer. When we adversely react to people, it is generally due to our own feelings of inadequacy.

In my practice, I often come across clients who don’t value the positive aspects of themselves or their partners. My job at large is to work with individuals to make them feel good about themselves first and then to apply that joy and acceptance to their relationships. I see some clients who are accustomed to looking for what’s wrong in their relationship to fix it. The more focus and energy you put into something, the more of that energy you will see and get in life. Basically, your energy goes wherever your life energy and attention flow.

That’s one of the reasons I encourage my clients to look for the good in their relationships or to basically see God or a divinity in their partners. Life is so beautiful when we can open our eyes each morning, again and again, and experience the joy of loving ourselves and being with someone we love.