Why Do I Use Pillars In My Book, Making A Commitment For Love, To Represent The Basis Of Any Structure Or Foundation?

When I set out to write Making A Commitment For Love, my mission was (and still is) to share how by following just 11 simple recommendations (i.e., pillars) people can make their relationships become more loving, caring, and their home a much more pleasant and warmer place to live in.

I use pillars in my book as an analogy because they represent the basis of any structure or foundation, and reliability that provides essential support for just about anything, but in this case — healthy relationships — whether it is with a significant other, family member, friend, coworker, etc. Pillars also represent building blocks of strength and trust and unconditional love.

In Jewish tradition, the “chuppah” is a symbolic cloth canopy supported by four poles that makes a statement to the couple entering marriage that first, their “roof” is fragile. In the words of William Henry Channing, “To live content with small means; to seek elegance rather than luxury, and refinement rather than fashion, to be worthy, not respectable, and wealthy, not rich; to study hard, think quietly, talk gently, act frankly, to listen to stars and birds, to babes and sages, with open heart, to bear all cheerfully, to all bravely await occasions, hurry never. In a word, to let the spiritual unbidden and unconscious grow up through the common. This is to be my symphony.”

Secondly, the “chuppah” sets the couple apart and establishes their home as an island of sanity and serenity that is immeasurably solid and unique. It communicates that the basis of a Jewish home is the people within it, not the possessions. In a spiritual sense, the covering of the “chuppah”  represents the presence of God over the covenant of marriage that is not unlike the exchange of vows, rings, ribbons, and more in other faiths.

After 34 years of marriage, studies, teaching, and from my own experiences, I have learned how small actions can make a union more intimate and loving. My mission is to write a book to share how by following just 11 simple recommendations (i.e., pillars) people can make their relationships become more loving, caring, and their home a much more pleasant and warmer place to live in.

I am hoping that these pillars (as I call them), will strengthen the bond between you and the one you love. Couples who read Making A Commitment For Love and live by the recommendations found within its pages can experience positive results beyond their fondest expectations. Awareness is the key and life is too precious to make it unpleasant for the one you love and especially yourself.