Ask Yourself, “Are My Emotional Needs Being Met?”

Ask yourself, “Are my emotional needs being met?” Maybe you are too busy to focus on what your needs are. If this is the case, make time to assess yourself. Unless you can identify what your emotional needs are and how they can be met, you can lose yourself. I encourage my clients to make a list of their emotional needs to understand where they are coming from.

If you are having trouble getting started, consider the emotional needs that many of us have, such as friendship, recognition, time alone, validation, etc. Sometimes we may need to explore our past for clarity in order to understand the present, but don’t let your past be your focus.

Part of accepting oneself is recognizing that you do have faults and deficiencies. When we love ourselves completely, we tend to lighten up on ourselves, which is a good thing. We feel comfortable in our own skin. People who are happy with their existence are often more nurturing and sensitive towards others and their relationships. People who tend to lack self-love often start arguments with their loved ones for no reason other than to nurture and fill the emptiness inside them, which creates more confusion. Some people just like to see others as miserable as they are.

They are used to seeing the negative side of everything in life, including their relationships. When you are constantly looking for the value and goodness in people, you keep seeing the best parts of them. It’s called being caring and loving unconditionally.