Everyone Can Use Some Alone Time

What I see in couples, often times, is a direct correlation between their issues and the fact that they don’t allow the other person to be who he or she is. For example, EVERYONE can use (and needs) some alone time. It allows them to re-energize and get ready to pick up where they left off with more energy, enthusiasm and optimism. Some do this by periodically surrounding themselves with a group of friends or they might take a real breather from the day-to-day hassles of life by taking a class or going on a boat ride, a walk outside, a stroll in the park, you name it!

Having said that, if a couple has strong trust and communication skills, they feel empowered to be themselves and to do the things that motivate and inspire them because they know that they will both be better for it. When a couple agrees that once every couple of weeks they can take time to get together with their own sets of friends (whether their friends are married or single), they will not be influenced by any negative behaviors that could threaten their relationship.

I recommend even a couple of day trips, periodically if possible, with friends just to give the other person room to relax, and besides, you get to reap the benefits of returning refreshed and motivated! This works best when couples vow to work on themselves and their relationship because it can create more joy from within and both people benefit from the resulting contentment.

When you are happy, you radiate love and light and it can revitalize loved ones, especially the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. Respect each other’s individuality and accept each other for what makes each of you unique. If change is needed, remember that you can only change yourself and that change can also have a positive impact on the other person.

Put your time on this earth to good use; grow emotionally and spiritually; make your life a joyful and prosperous one!